“The more two people open to each other, the more this wide open-ness also brings to the surface all the obstacles to it: their deepest, darkest wounds, their desperation and mistrust, and their rawest emotional trigger points.” – John Welwood
I love working with couples and have learned a lot about relationships during the 25 years I have been with my husband. Partnership has been my greatest journey and our struggles and the commitment to loving each other fully and imperfectly has created a bond that has brought depth and meaning to my life.
I believe that establishing a “history of survival” by navigating difficult times successfully and unsuccessfully is essential. Relationships are the path to knowing who we are and I believe that what needs to heal presents itself through the pain and dynamics that get activated in partnership.
Couples therapy is an opportunity to learn and grow by focusing on the patterns that get created in your relationship. Blame and shame are optional, and when we begin to take responsibility for how we show up in the present – and to do so with compassion for ourselves and our partner, we are rewarded with love.